Cd-rom Has Been On The Fritz For Awhile

Running XP in older HP. Installed new HDD. My recovery discs would not work was told to get new ones. Got the Discs with correct BID but having problems installing. My cd-rom has been on the fritz for awhile. We only use this pc as a backup and because we like XP so we use the multimedia drive. The rom drive will not open with the button but will with a paperclip. I was told the recovery discs have to be run on the cd-rom drive only and using a paperclip doesn't let the drive set properly to read the discs. When I first tried the recovery it seemed to start ok, says starting recovery but then runs and run, no messages, no noise from pc. I don't mind replacing the drive if that is the problem. Also, the part# from the drive I took out is different then the part# on HP list. I have found both and from what I can gather, both will work. The only difference I can find on the description is one list device jumpers on the rear panel features. I have no idea what that means. For the record, the recovery disc set is supposed to format and partition the drive then start recovery.